I am working on a line of thinking that I don't have fleshed out but I have people asking for a post so let's do this!
I was talking to my daughter (I was blessed to get a daughter when I married my wife in 2014) She asked me why it was that I never fight with her mom, my wife. She thinks it is a bit weird for a couple to not fight from time to time, maybe even on a regular basis. How do you answer that? I am sorry for not reaching the specified fight quota for the day, week, month, year? Some have said that when there is nothing to fight about there is a lack of passion. HA. Seriously? So my daughter, and some experts apparently, are of the opinion that fighting is a normal thing and pretty much a requirement.
Hog wash.
I reject that idea on it's face alone. I am no Bible scholar but I just don't recall men of God who loved their wives yelling at them, or beating them, or giving them the silent treatment, or some other form of punishment and/or fighting with them. I still stand by a previous blog I wrote years and years ago where I establish the Relationship Energy theorem. When a relationship is good and there is trust, respect, integrity, love, adoration, then you will draw energy from it and it will refresh you. When a relationship lacks those building blocks for whatever reason, you will fight, and the relationship will suck energy from you and leave you drained and miserable.
I intend to continue my approach to my marriage because it is successful. I intend to continue giving my wife more than she asks for. More than she expects.
more to come...back to work.